On the other hand, most people don't just become "sex addicts" because it's there! Side note: I just finished my own Worldwide review Of the literature on the impact of increased access of pornography on teens, and it looks like a similar story: that is that our backgrounds "soften us up" if there is a lot of avoidance, disconnection, conflict, non-processed abandonment, or abuse, and in such cases, there are high-risk people that can have serious problems, So (Agreed to) external controls on access certainly becomes an issue. These guys' research validated a lot of what I suspected: that there is a moral panic because of the Internet, and of course, the total "pie" size is growing because of availability, but the good news Appears to be that the percentage of what most would call "the real scary stuff" has NOT grown as a percentage of the total!) Something that motivated me to want to understand what the research On what people actually look for on the Internet demonstrated, Versus how they answer on paper and pencil tests, interviews, etc. (I should say that because I Have also worked in the field for 35 of my 40 years involving the treatment of sex offenders In their support people, I was already aware that the more moralistic one is towards any type of sexuality, the more one employs defenses to lie to themselves about what they're aroused to. NOT that all questions Involving sexuality are resolved in clear, but certainly expanding my understanding of things that, historically, I would have only responded with the moral aspect of one's responsivity. I'm a psychotherapist that also works with people with people who have various types of porn problems, (And their partners),and reading this can help some understand themselves or their spouses – without the condemnation or insecurity that understandably often is one's 1st response.įinally, I found the research analysis applied to fetishes, and other forms of sexuality besides the mainstream type – Oh, and of course, LGBQ Issues, etc.– Especially the research to be another thought provoking aspect of this book– Especially, Facilitating a more nuanced understanding of the interplay between environment, genetics, culture, etc. (Thus the ease with which they can look at guys like they are from Mars… Or Venus…When so much Of our different approach to sex makes sense from a bio evolutionary point of view!) I love the part (often observed by me, and denied by some of my female friends) where women respond on a body level very similarly to men, but though that is true, they are not aware of it. In fact, I found that it leads to very interesting conversations among Both my male and female friends, and hopefully, Some increased compassion for why each has their own way of coming to sexuality and sensuality. I consider myself a feminist, and have since the 70s, but The way the authors integrated various research with theirs also validated A deeper understanding of why males are more likely to be involved with porn than the usual judgmental "men are just takes" explanation. I'm not kidding – this happened about 10-15 times. There a bit repetitive at times, but I must say that every time I would tell myself – "okay, I get the idea… I think I'm going to stop reading", I'd run across another tidbit that was very thought-provoking. Saw these guys present at a conference for the Association of the treatment of sexual abusers in Chicago.
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